Happiness is desired by all, but very few have a sustained experience. We easily gravitate to a negative disposition, therefore we must make a lifetime choice to work on staying happy. I have studied the science behind happiness and those that are happy aren’t born with a special gene. They have consciously made decisions to permanently change their outlook on life. People deliberately choose to live happy lives for various reasons. I chose happiness after surviving a traumatic and life altering experience.
My son was born via an emergency C-section. During delivery he was deprived of oxygen for 17 minutes. I was instantly placed on a life path that was radically different from the one I had prior to his birth. I surprisingly encountered difficulty with my extended family. My son was diagnosed with cerebral palsy and my family no longer felt comfortable interacting with me. They didn’t know what to say or do, so they kept their distance. I felt completely alone, unsupported during my greatest time of need, and angry.
I was furious with my family for many years, but I loathed feeing like one big ball of knotted nerves. I had to do something proactive to find my happiness again. I discovered along the way that I was the only one who could control my emotional state, and I had to begin purging habits and people that kept me unhappy. I didn’t go into the process expecting the need to remove anything from my life, but it was necessary when they became stumbling blocks to my happiness. Purging was quite painful, but a critical exercise I had to do before entering the blissful state that has become my norm. It’s worth the struggle. Take care of yourself.
The Happiness Advantage, by Shawn Achor
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself, by Melody Beattie